“YOU ARE A LOT”

(an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)

The You Are A Lot (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast) is for ADHD, AuDHD, Autistic or neurodivergent curious adults. If you feel misunderstood, overwhelmed or just like “something is wrong” - my solo podcast will feel like hearing from a friend who gets you. I was diagnosed with AuDHD in mid-life, and I share what I’ve learned through coaching, therapy, and lots of trial and error — how to rest, have self-compassion, make a realistic to-do list, figure out what works for me, set goals, meet my own needs, and accept that there will still be burnout. And since my special interest is researching everything about ADHD/AuDHD, you don’t have to. All you have to do is listen.

If anyone’s ever told you, “you’re kind of a LOT,” this podcast is your new favorite.

Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Audible, or wherever you listen. Don’t miss the blogs below ⬇️— each one has quick tips for ADHD/AuDHD plus the episode built right in!

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EPISODE 44: “AUDHD”

Jen opens up about her surprising Autism diagnosis last summer, which added AuDHD to her identity alongside ADHD…

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EPISODE 43: “DEBUNKING THE NY TIMES ARTICLE ON ADHD”

Jen talks about her frustration and anger at the gravely irresponsible and chock full of what seems like willful disinformation spreading article in the Sunday New York Times Magazine titled “Have We Been Thinking About ADHD All Wrong?” Jen let’s the experts speak for her and she reads the intelligent analysis done by Dr. Russell Barkley and the editors of ADDitude Magazine.

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PATREON ONLY EPISODE 42: “LIMERENCE”

Ever heard of limerence? It’s not quite love, not quite lust—but something way more intense, obsessive, and irrational. I’m taking a close look at this state of deep distress that starts with euphoric highs. I reference Dr. Dorothy Tennov’s original research, what modern psychologists are debating now, and how hyperfocus, rejection sensitivity, and impulsivity all play a role in this heartbreaking, confusing experience.

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EPISODE 40: “SETTING BOUNDARIES”

ADHD/AuDHD humans often struggle with boundaries—whether it's setting them with others or even recognizing our own internal limits. We might not realize a boundary needs to be set until it's already been crossed, leaving us overwhelmed, resentful, and frustrated.

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PATREON ONLY EP 39: “SKEPTICAL OF SCAMS & CULTS?”

In response to last week’s episode about reasons why ADHD/AuDHD Humans sometimes have a bigger chance of being drawn into cults, MLM’s and other sketchy setups - there is an equal and opposite argument that people with ADHD/AuDHD are actually MORE EQUIPPED to spot scams and avoid getting sucked into cults and sketchy situations.

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EPISODE 38: “SUSCEPTIBLE TO CULTS & SCAMS?”

Did you know that ADHD/AuDHD Humans have a bigger chance of being drawn into cults, MLM’s and other sketchy setups? I explain why we are targets (hint: our impulsivity, need for community, and outsider feelings) and talk about how to spot red flags.

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EPISODE 37: “PDA: PATHOLOGICAL DEMAND AVOIDANCE”

Jen breaks down the ins and outs of PDA; Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy. She chats about why even the simplest requests can feel like too much and how people with PDA handle those constant demands. Jen looks at the behaviors, challenges, and some ways to work on keeping a sense of autonomy even when triggered.

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PATREON ONLY EPISODE 36: “MEDICATION”

Did you know that people with ADHD/AuDHD are vulnerable to ending up in toxic relationships (of all kinds)? You are not broken and neither is your “picker”. There is science behind this. It’s due to our issues with communication, impulsivity, low self-esteem, and that old need for dopamine! This episode may make you feel sane and help your confusion as to how you got here - especially if you don’t have any “big T” trauma in your upbringing.

This episode is only available to Patreon members.

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EPISODE 35: “UN-MASKING PART 2”

Jen talks about the other side of masking which is unmasking! She explains how we can safely and consciously choose to un-mask, the risks for some of unmasking, and how we may find ourselves unconsciously unmasking as people around us say things like, “You’re acting more ADHD/Autistic ever since your diagnosis.” But it’s not an act. It’s our authentic selves coming through.

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EPISODE 34: “MASKING PART 1”

Jen talks about the exhausting art of masking with ADHD and/or AuDHD. She explores why so many of us feel the need to mask (both consciously and unconsciously), what the very real consequences of masking are, and when it benefits those of us with ADHD.

This episode is only available to Patreon members.

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PATREON ONLY EPISODE 33: “TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS”

Did you know that people with ADHD/AuDHD are vulnerable to ending up in toxic relationships (of all kinds)? You are not broken and neither is your “picker”. There is science behind this. It’s due to our issues with communication, impulsivity, low self-esteem, and that old need for dopamine! This episode may make you feel sane and help your confusion as to how you got here - especially if you don’t have any “big T” trauma in your upbringing.

This episode is only available to Patreon members.

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EPISODE 32: “JUSTICE SENSITIVITY”

Jen explores the concept of Justice Sensitivity in people with ADHD and AuDHD. She explains why fairness and injustice can feel so intense for neurodivergent individuals and how these strong reactions shape everyday experiences and influence relationships, work, and personal well-being.

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