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Jen Kirkman, a funny woman with a bright smile and sharp humor.

I write real, unfiltered stories from my life as a Gen-X with AuDHD as I just now really start to know myself (only took 50 years!). I’ll be flaunting my radical energy that, looking back, I only thought I had in my 20s as I eschew hustle culture, heteronormativity, monogamy, toxic positivity, neurotypical rules of life, and pump my fist in the air for joy, friendship, feminism, self-care, making my own life and my own rules, and learning to try to be okay with aging (so far, I am not that okay with it? More to come…).

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Jen Kirkman 6/10/25 Jen Kirkman 6/10/25

You’re Not Procrastinating - You’re Paralyzed

I’m going to keep this brief because I’m honestly in an AuDHD task paralysis these days. I carefully broke out of my paralysis to put together this email blast…

Jen Kirkman 6/9/25 Jen Kirkman 6/9/25

A Letter to Carrie Bradshaw

I used to make video recaps of the Sex and the City reboot, And Just Like That, on my Instagram and TikTok, commenting on the show and talking about the absurd behavior of the characters…

Jen Kirkman 6/3/25 Jen Kirkman 6/3/25

Are You Reading This At Work Right Now?

The GOOD NEWS is that ADHD is covered under the Americans With Disabilities Act (still, yes, it hasn’t been taken away yet), meaning that if you have ADHD…

Jen Kirkman 5/30/25 Jen Kirkman 5/30/25

Don’t You Dare Small Talk Me…

It might be hard to believe — because I’ve made a career talking about my personal life in my comedy — but I am insanely private…

Jen Kirkman 5/14/25 Jen Kirkman 5/14/25

Diagnosed With Autism At Age 49

Last summer, at age 49, I was officially diagnosed as Autistic. I’d already been treating my ADHD for a few years, and while the medication was life-changing, something still felt... off.

Jen Kirkman 5/8/25 Jen Kirkman 5/8/25

Quirky Glimpses of NYC Await!

Last year, I spent a total of two months in Paris over the course of three work trips. There wasn’t much downtime, and I got sick twice while I was there…

Patti Meyer 4/30/25 Patti Meyer 4/30/25

The New York Times Comes For ADHD

Jen talks about her frustration and anger at the gravely irresponsible and chock full of what seems like willful disinformation spreading article…

Jen Kirkman 4/28/25 Jen Kirkman 4/28/25

I Used To Watch Sunrises

I am going out of town for a week (not work, not vacation, a family illness situation), and whenever I have to leave my home, the little brat inside of me decides to start missing a thing…

Jen Kirkman 4/24/25 Jen Kirkman 4/24/25

Ever Heard of Limerence?

Ever heard of limerence? It’s not quite love, not quite lust—but something way more intense, obsessive, and irrational. I’m taking a close look at this state of deep distress…

Jen Kirkman 4/19/25 Jen Kirkman 4/19/25

I Stayed Out Too Late

I was up until 2 a.m. last night. No, scratch that. I was out until 2 a.m. last night. I do not go or stay out that late anymore. Was it fun? Not fun enough…

Jen Kirkman 4/15/25 Jen Kirkman 4/15/25

Are You A People Pleaser?

If you’ve ever people-pleased or been people-pleased, you know how it feels. You lose yourself, or you get the sense that someone is doing something for you for all of the wrong reasons…

Jen Kirkman 4/8/25 Jen Kirkman 4/8/25

Spring Kinda Sucks, Right?

I lived in NYC on 9/11/2001. Monumental. I also lived in NYC (and still do) on 1/29/25. Not as monumental. But still historic. I’ll explain…

Jen Kirkman 4/1/25 Jen Kirkman 4/1/25

Got Boundaries?

Most people suck at setting boundaries - whether or not they want to but are too afraid to, or they think they’re setting a boundary but they’re really just putting up a wall…

Jen Kirkman 3/25/25 Jen Kirkman 3/25/25

The Finale: Bothering Ethan Hawke On His Stoop

Picking up from where I left off last week. God, I hope you all appreciate that I am willing to relive this humiliation. It’s really hard to type from the fetal position…